I Love You Disgusting

Some of you may know that as of January 1^st, I entered what I so adoringly have called, “The Year of Simplicity”.  It may seem, well, “simple”, but it’s truly not. After 15 years of Life Tornadoes and Hurricanes (which have included some delightful spins in wind), I am riding on the calm AFTER the storm.

How does one mom in full-time college courses with a Kindergartener and Hubby maintain such a life? By one very important and 2 letter (I said TWO letter) word… “N-O”.

Women and men everywhere tend to view this tiny vocabulary as a negative and nasty in the world of words, however, it’s a great tool.

EXAMPLE: “Hey, I wanted to know if you’d be interested in doing… “

*Now let’s pause here… this means A. Work B. Time C. Energy. You can’t “do” without moving and thinking and giving it some time and energy.

SO….

“No”.  

(Did you take notices of the PERIOD that followed? It’s the end. You’ve said it ALL).

Now don’t get me wrong… I’m built with a servant’s heart and a love for being “involved” with things when the time is right.

At 35 years old, it’s important to realize that I’m in the mid-stream… I ain’t gettin’ any younger but I gotta WHOLE bunch of life to live and I don’t wanna ruin that by getting stress-anxiety and hives. It’s not a “LEAVE ME ALONE”, it’s an “I need to breathe”. Much nicer, yes?

*Note the lax vocabulary and slang? It means I’m relaxed and not doing too much… even articulating properly through blog-ness. Ahh… I’m smiling at the thought. See? 

And here, my friends, is the moral to this lengthy tale…

When you hear, “I know you’re really busy….” At the beginning of a sentence… gear up… it’s time… you can do it….

“NO”.

Similar to the 1980s anti-drug campaign, we need to rally for ourselves and “just say no”.